Your wedding first dance should reflect who you are. It doesn’t have to be formal or stressful. Instead, it can be fun, creative and meaningful.
This guide includes 21 ideas to help you plan a first dance that fits your style. From music tips to choreography suggestions, it’s all here.
1. Start Traditional, Then Mix It Up
Begin with a classic slow dance. Halfway through, switch to something upbeat. This creates a surprise and gets your guests excited.
2. Pick a Song That Tells Your Story
Choose a song that means something to both of you. It could be from your first road trip or a song you always sing together. Make it personal.
3. Decide Between Band or DJ
A live band adds atmosphere and charm. A DJ gives you more control over the mix and tempo. This guide from WeddingWire explains the pros and cons of each.
4. Practise – But Not Too Much
A few dance lessons will help you feel confident. But keep it natural. Don’t worry about perfection.
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5. Include Irish Music
Consider a traditional Irish tune or an artist like Van Morrison. This adds a local touch and feels authentic, especially if you’re getting married in Ireland.
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6. Dance Outdoors If You Can
Dancing under fairy lights on a summer night feels magical. If your venue has outdoor space, use it. But always plan for rain. Read our guide to beach weddings in Ireland to check what’s possible.
7. Involve Your Dog
If your dog is part of your day, bring them into your first dance. They can stand beside you or join in for a few steps.
8. Invite Others to Join In
You don’t need to dance alone. Ask your bridal party or parents to join halfway through. It takes the pressure off and makes the moment more relaxed.
9. Create a Mash-Up
Pick two or three songs. Start slow, then switch to something fast. A mash-up feels exciting and keeps the energy up.
10. Keep It Short
Your wedding first dance doesn’t need to be long. One or two minutes is enough. This keeps the focus without dragging on.
11. Add a Big Entrance
Dim the lights. Play the intro. Step onto the dance floor like you’re on stage. It creates drama and builds anticipation.
12. Practise in Your Dress
If your dress has a full skirt or long train, try a few moves in it. That way, you’ll avoid tripping and know what feels comfortable.
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13. Use a Cover Version
If the lyrics of your favourite song aren’t quite right, try a slower acoustic version. This Spotify playlist has plenty of beautiful covers.
14. Perform It Yourself
If you sing or play music, consider performing your first dance song. It’s a brave move, but very personal. Your guests will love it.
15. Match the Dance to Your Venue
A castle might suit a waltz. A coastal venue calls for something more relaxed. Let the setting inspire your style.
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16. Focus on the Lyrics
Let the lyrics do the talking. A meaningful song can express your feelings without a speech.
17. Light the Moment
Lighting changes everything. Use a spotlight for drama. Use fairy lights for romance. Speak with your DJ or band about syncing the lighting.
18. Stay True to Yourselves
If you’re fun and quirky, do a playful routine. If you’re more private, keep it simple. The best dances reflect your personalities.
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19. Get It on Video
Tell your videographer that your first dance is a key moment. Ask them to film it from different angles.
20. Make It Social Media Friendly
Tell your guests if you plan a dramatic ending or confetti pop. Someone will catch it on their phone. For a professional touch, consider a wedding content creator who captures your day live for social media.
21. End with a Wow Moment
Add a spin, dip or confetti toss at the end. It finishes the dance on a high and makes it feel special.
Final Thoughts: Own Your Wedding First Dance
Your wedding first dance is more than a tradition. It’s a moment to slow down, connect, and celebrate your first steps into married life.
Whether you dance barefoot on a beach or twirl in a grand ballroom, make it yours. You don’t need to follow rules. Just focus on joy, love and a little rhythm.
Bonus: Top 10 First Dance Songs for 2025
- You Are The Reason – Calum Scott & Leona Lewis
- Lover – Taylor Swift (First Dance Remix)
- Simply the Best (Acoustic) – Tina Turner / Noah Reid
- A Thousand Years – Christina Perri
- Can’t Help Falling in Love – Kina Grannis
- All of Me – John Legend
- Thinking Out Loud – Ed Sheeran
- Yours – Ella Henderson
- Your Song – Elton John / Ellie Goulding cover
- You and Me – Lifehouse
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